40 Questions to Ask Your Child Instead of “How Was Your Day”

How did your day go? is a question reflecting your interest in your child‘s life and the fact that you really care about them, right? Right and… Well, wrong. This question does show that you care about your little one but it is also a lazy option. After repeating it to your kid for years, the question starts losing its meaning. It becomes a routine which brings you to mechanical answers such as Fine, Nothing special, Great.

Communication is fuelled by creativity and diversity

Communication between parents and kids needs to stay challenging, and that won‘t happen as you keep repeating the same question all over again. It is essential to keep the conversations diverse – that‘s how you get to know your kid better and show them how much you care about them at the same time. By covering more topics, you also increase your chances of building the full trust between you and your little angels. That‘s why it is crucial to start asking these daily questions in the most diverse way from their earliest years.

Here are some questions to spark a quality conversation.

1. Have you met anyone interesting today?
2. What really annoyed you today and how would you change it?
3. How do you like your class?
4. What‘s the funniest thing you saw today?
5. How did you like your lunch today?
6. What did you dream last night?
7. Is there any new hobby you would like to try?
8. What was the last thing that made you really sad?
9. Which movie would you like us to see this weekend?
10. How‘s studying for that test going?
11. If you could switch places with anyone in the world, who would that be?
12. Which situation has made you angry in the past few weeks?

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1. If you could have any wild animal as your pet, which animal would you choose?
2. Which holiday are you looking forward to the most?
3. Is there anyone you‘d like to become friends with but that hasn‘t happened yet?
4. Have you recently discovered any good new music?
5. Which superpower would you like to have and why?
6. What bothered you the most about this day?
7. Imagine that you would have the power to change anything about your school you dislike the most. What would you change?
8. What‘s the silliest word you have ever learned?

20 More questions to ask your kid

1. Which book would you like to read and why?
2. Which school subject brings you the most troubles and why?
3. What was the most interesting example of bravery you have seen recently?
4. Who is most successful in making you laugh?
5. What kind of party would you like to have for your next birthday?
6. Who do you find the most inspiring person in your environment?
7. Is there anything that has made you feel unsafe or endangered lately?
8. How were you expressing your kindness in the past few weeks?
9. What was the most creative activity you engaged in today?
10. Did anyone offended you today, willingly or unwillingly, and how did it make you feel?
11. Who or what scared you the most today?
12. Did you help anyone today?
13. If you were a teacher, which subject would you teach?
14. Is there any special someone you share your lunch with?
15. What is the most amazing new thing you learned today?
16. Did you play any sports today?
17. What is your favorite place in your school?
18. Is there anyone in school who is picking on you?
19. What‘s the most incredible thing that happened in school this month?
20. What are you looking forward to about tomorrow?

Match the questions to the occasion

Although all of the questions above are virtually neutral and could be used anytime, it would be best if you could match the spirit of a certain question with your child‘s mood.

That‘s how you can increase your chances to open a sincere and deep communication with your kid – they are more likely to talk about a certain topic if it is really related to something that‘s actually happening to them at the given moment.

Make it a habit

Start with some of these questions and keep improvising once you establish diverse questions as your habit.

In weeks, months and even years from now, you will see this practice as quite effective – the results will be reflected in the fact that your children are highly open to conversations, and able to articulate their emotions on a very high level.

Do you have any suggestions regarding these day-to-day questions? The space in the comments is all yours!

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